Tehilla · ti-hee-la
A practice.A body of work.
I make things about who we become in relationship: with ourselves, the people we love, God, and the lives we've learned to carry.
Books, music, quizzes, writing. Coaching is one door in the house, not the name on the door.
Licensed counsellor. In private practice since 2013. Confidential work with clients around the world.
You don't need fixing. You need the right mirror.
The Ugly Duckling spent years trying to improve his waddle. He was never a bad duck. He was a swan looking into the wrong mirror.
The work
Start wherever you're curious.
- 01See the books →
Books
The God Speaks series: Scripture, then God's voice, one day at a time.
- 02Listen →
Music
Songs as Sophia Oakley. Some things are easier to sing than explain.
- 03Take a quiz →
Quizzes
See what you've been carrying, and what's happening between you.
- 04Read the blog →
Blog
Identity, relationships, faith and family life.
- 05Work with me →
Relationships
For love that keeps getting stuck in the same place.
Hi, I'm Tehilla.
I've worked with families since 2002, opening my private practice in 2013. My work has always centred on the patterns we live by and how they shape the way we see ourselves and one another.
I grew up as the daughter of Lydia and Francois du Toit (my father wrote the Mirror Bible), surrounded by grace. I believe everything can change when we live from our God-given identity, rather than striving to earn it.
More about me →Love is instinct. Relating is learned.
Now
“I love my partner, but I don't like our relationship anymore.”
Feeling this doesn't make either of you a bad person. Something between you deserves to be understood. That's what the Relationship Realignment Method is for.
Love, in Real Life
An 8-week relationship reset in a small live group, for individuals and couples.
Starts Wednesday 13 January 2027 · Runs once a year · 10 seats
Join the groupPrivate sessions: with me directly, on your own or with your partner →
Self-study: the Love, in Real Life Toolbox, at your own pace →
Here as a couple, or as the husband who's trying everything? There's a way in for you too.
All offers are coaching, not therapy.
Love Letters
Love, life and the messy in between.
Once a week: a heart-to-heart from my week. Sometimes it's about identity, sometimes relationships, how we handle our feelings or a tool you can use. Written from faith, even when it isn't about faith.
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